有一種書看了會想要溫暖、感恩、愉悅,如果你正在尋找這些,那麼這本書一定不會讓你失望。
這是一本有關兩人溝通為主題的插畫書,不論是友誼或者愛情。作者認為,相處中的每一段經歷都是美好,如果有不美好的地方,那大約不離幾個問題,像是忘記彼此的共同創造、維持讚賞、與持續帶給彼此驚喜的呈現、良好理性的溝通,並覺察不要將過去的傷痛帶到現在。
是一本看完會讓人心情愉悅,且對於溝通會變得掌握度比較高的一本有趣的療癒插畫集。
所有的相處,一定離不開溝通,這本書把許多種的溝通形式以美學的方式呈現給大家,在書本的結尾的地方來個驚奇轉折,讓人發現,所有的一切都可以是一個重新的開始。
以教育意義來看,這是一本適合所有關係開始、進行中、與假象結束的一本療癒書,與溝通學習的資料。
雪花和夏天是一對好朋友,他們彼此相知相惜,曾經歷各種悲歡離合與春夏秋冬,而這一切一直以各種形式在延續著,故事從來都沒有真正結束的時候…
本書內容包含各式各樣相處的智慧,在這本書裡面彩用柔和繽紛的色澤,並以水彩的表現形式,畫出各種的喜悅與美感,是被演藝界埋沒的療癒系藝術家張瑞竹的最新創作,並且整本以中英文對照,是想要送好朋友當紀念禮物的驚喜選擇之一,也是一本兼具教育與感性的文學藝術作品。這也是一本給想要幸福和寧靜的朋友一份美好的祝福。
《雪花與夏天》作者自序:
謝謝您願意花時間翻開這本書,在這本書中,我用兩隻顏色不同的貓作為主角,講的內容是有關相處,因為我覺得用動物來表達比較不會再刺激,比較能讓人置之度外的思考。
友誼與愛情的元素包含了讚賞,讚賞的部份我們比較能夠理解,所以我們都會希望自己是美好的,這樣可以贏得讚賞,有了讚賞,就比較容易變成愛情與友誼。問題在於要一直能夠維持原先的讚賞一直的存在,其實不太容易,如果是因為美麗這件事情吸引了愛情和友誼,那最好能一直保持永遠的美麗,才能一直維持彼此關係的存在。但是事實上人不可能永遠美麗,失去了美麗的友誼和愛情要如何維持呢?
所以我覺得,美麗當然很好,但是為了能永保友誼的新鮮,我們應該要有更多讓對方覺得有值得讚賞的點存在,這樣在美麗消失後,還是可以持續擁有值得被讚賞的部分,愛情與友情也才可以持續存在。 不管人們彼此的相處是否能長久,能夠相遇這件事就是個值得感謝的事情是作者想要表達的。希望是一本在看完之後會覺得溫暖的一本書。
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夏天:一起去做點什麼事吧~
Summer: let's do something.
世界很大 我們還有很多沒有完成的事
有時候生活經歷了很久的一成不變,會讓人倦怠,那麼何不一起再去探索新世界呢?
這個世界很大,永遠會有有趣的事情可以一起去探險的。這樣生活就不會無聊了,這個部分在兩性相處中很常發生沒有遊戲玩的狀況,遊戲包含障礙和目標,沒有遊戲玩就一點也不好玩
有次夫婦朋友吵架,我突然問他們,你們要不要去找其他比較有建設性的遊戲玩?正在享受吵架遊戲的朋友。突然我一句話,就驚醒了他們,於是瞬間就都安靜了。
The world is big and we have many things to be finished.
Sometimes, life will make people tired after a long time of routine life. Why not explore the new world together? The world is so big that there are interesting things to explore all the time. In this way, you won't feel life is boring. During the period of getting along with each other between both sexes, the situation that no games including obstacles and goals to play often happens, and it is not fun without game to play. On one occasion, a couple quarreled with each other, as their friend, I asked them if they would like to find a constructive game to play. They are enjoying the quarrel game, but quiet immediately after I wake them by the word.
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久別重逢都是驚喜
All encounters in life are reunions after long times apart
我以前會覺得每個特別願意交往的人都只是覺得對眼,或者對方是我喜歡的那一型,後來我發現,這些我覺得願意交往的人,常常都不是第一次相遇,如果你覺得人可能有前輩子的話.
I would feel that each one who I liked to get along with was the right person, or was my type before, but I found that usually he was not the one I met first, if you believe that a person has a past life.
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雪花:我們好久沒有一起彈新曲了
Snowflakes: We haven't played new songs together for a long time.
這就是兩人相處是不是能長久的秘密之一了。兩個人之間,能琴瑟和鳴,共同創造是兩個人在一起最重要的部分,常常我們會以為只要訂了山盟海誓的約定就安心的停止創造了,而渾然不覺當共同的創造停止以後,兩人的關係其實已就停止了,也是傳說中婚姻是愛情的墳墓的原因。
那麼從現在開始我們可以怎樣創造我們的未來呢?
This is the secret that whether two people could get along with each other for a long time. It is an important part for two people to hum together in life and create together. Usually we think that we could stop the creation at ease as long as a pledge of eternal love agreement is made, but we are unconscious that after the common creation stops, the relationship between two people has stopped, i.e., marriage is said to be the tomb of love. Then how could we create our future from now on?
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初心
Original heart
第一次見到你的時候我是這樣的,也許我美麗,或者長相普通,或者心情低潮或者心情很好,在那個時候遇見你,我是這個樣子的。
這張我用了彈琴與拉小提琴的圖片,一般能相遇,都是有些共鳴的,我想要讓讀者能夠回憶起最早大家相遇的那個時間點,我們的初心,也許那時候想要幫助,或者讚賞,或者有任何其他的理由,那個最開始的初心,不要因為日子過了很久,經歷許多波折和困難後而有其他的改變,永遠都要回頭想想當初開始這段關係時候的自己,這樣想,很多事情都會釋然了。
The first I met you, I was just like this, maybe I was beautiful or common in appearance, or low in mood or good in mood. I was just like that when I met you.
Generally there must be some resonance by encountering each other. I use the picture of playing piano and violin to make readers remember the first time point when we met each other. Our original heart, maybe we needed help or appreciation at that time, or for any other reasons, should not change due to a long time, many twists and turns and difficulties. We should always think about yourself when starting this relationship. Many things would be relieved if you think in this way.
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夏天:海天一色 陪你
Summer: the sea and sky merged With you
有個能講的上話的人在旁邊陪著,是人生最幸福的事情之一,海天一色,總給我優美寬闊的感覺,有你相陪也是一樣的感覺。
It is the happiest thing of life to have a person who can talk with you aside. The sea and sky merged always gives me a graceful and broad feeling, which is the same feeling with having you accompany.
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你來自北極 我來自南極 不同的我們 總在尋找共同的靈魂
You come from the North Pole, and I come from the South Pole. The different us is always looking for a common spirit.
這張我用了以前上數學課裡面交集的圖象概念,用在兩隻貓的頭上,畫圖的有趣就是可以想像力無限的把他們記錄在紙張上。
我們大多來自完全不同的環境,生活紀錄經驗也不可能會是完全相同的,但不知道為什麼卻總是以為對方和我們必須是一致的,這個就常造成一些誤會,但是如果換個角度,能夠尊重和欣賞對方和我們的不同,加上我們的確是擁有溝通這件無敵的工具,可以讓對方和我們盡量變的相同,或者可被欣賞與接受,這樣相處起來不是更美好?
The picture I used on the heads of two cats is adopted the image concept of intersection in the previous math class, and the interesting thing of drawing is to record them on paper with boundless imaginations.
Most of us come from totally different environment, and the life experience recorded is impossible to be totally the same, but we always think that the other one should be consistent with us, which would cause some misunderstanding. However, if we could see from a different perspective and respect and appreciate the differences between the other person and us, in addition to the invincible tool of communication that we own indeed, the other one could change to be the same with us as much as possible, or we could be appreciated and acceptable. Isn't it better to get along with each other in this way?
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如果覺得寂寞 是因為想見的人不在身邊
If you feel lonely, is it because you don't get what you want?
這是我有一天發現的,總覺得平常創意滿滿的畫圖創造的時候,就算ㄧ個人也很開心,完全不需要人陪,一點也不寂寞,但是有的時候,就算是滿屋的人,氣氛熱鬧,還是會覺得寂寞,所以寂寞並不是有人陪或者沒人陪,而是一種失落的感覺~有什麼是你最近想要的卻沒有得到的嗎?
I found it one day. I always feel that I will be happy even though I am alone when I draw and create pictures full creative ideas at usual. I won't feel lonely without a person to accompany me, but sometimes I still feel lonely even the room is full of people and the atmosphere is lively. Therefore, loneliness is a feeling of loss, no matter if someone accompanies you or not. Is there anything that you want to get but haven't got recently?
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雪花:不用瞞著你的感覺真好~
Snowflake: I feel good without hiding from you
我現在覺得,不用隱瞞的境界是最好的狀態,這跟限制和規定是有關係的,越多的限制,就容易會有隱瞞,想想如果這個不可以那個不可以,或者讓另一半知道自己做的錯事對方會暴跳如雷,自己也會不敢告訴對方,這樣就會造成隱瞞行為了。
但是仔細想,你會對你所隱瞞的對象有任何親和力嗎?
這就是為什麼大部分的人說越親近的人越容易變仇人,人們都忽略了,一旦開始有隱瞞的瞬間,親和力就立刻降低,然後以前其實還不太介意對方的小毛病頓時都被放大了,最後都變成分手的藉口…
其實大部分都是隱瞞這件事情造成的,為了避免彼此的隱瞞,你覺得怎樣做會最好呢?
I feel now that it is the best state of no hiding, which has to do with restrictions and regulations. The more the restrictions, the easier you will hide. Let's have a think about it. If you can't make your partner know your mistakes, because you scare that he/she will fly into a rage immediately, it will cause fraudulence.
If you think over, will you have any affinity to the person who you're hiding from?
This is why most people say that the closer people are more likely to become enemies. People all ignore that once there is a moment of hiding, your affinity will decrease, and then the other one's little problems that you didn't really care about are suddenly magnified. The hiding finally becomes an excuse to break up.
In fact, it is caused by hiding. In order to avoid hiding from each other, what do you think is the best way to do?